Perspective is the angle from which we view the world. Recently, I had a conversation with a dear person in my life and we were discussing our “dark side.” It is very hard to look at the reality of who we can become when provoked or afraid. However, when we look honestly at ourselves we can better prepare how we may react in challenging circumstances. I know that I have at times not acted in a way that I am proud to revisit. However each experience taught me something about myself and who I am and who I want to be.
I lost someone who I thought was a best friend a year or so ago and it really hurt. Not because the friendship ended specifically, but because she told me it was me who created “undue stress,” in her life. After that, I did look long and hard at my needs in friendship and realized that this friendship was not what I thought it was. My reuniting with a life-long friend after 25 years apart taught me that. This dear friend showed me that friendship doesn’t have to be hard or constantly connected. We rarely speak over the phone but we check in with each other, often at times when we just need that connection, just to let each know we are here and think they are special.
After starting to focus on gratitude, I discovered there are lots of things that are good in my life. Even the little things are worth celebrating.
This quote says much:
Laugh when you can,
apologize when you should,
and let go of what you can’t change.
and have no regrets.
Life’s too short to be anything…but happy.